Isn't life funny? It presents us with endless opportunities to engage with it in rich and learning-ful ways.
My amazing Mum is one of the strongest, most resilient people I know. She has experienced enormous challenges (and more than her fair share of personal tragedy), and continues to deal with whatever presents itself in her life with courage, pragmatism and dignity. Through our experiences and numerous bereavements, our whole family has developed a strong, philosophical resilience.
When my own daughter was critically ill some years ago (with meningococcal septicaemia), I lay by her side in the hospital for 48 hours while she was unconscious. I don't think I'd ever been more present in my life... On the outside, many people who cared were worrying about the worst-case scenarios. I didn't see the point in that myself, and kept focused on what was happening in the room, and on the goal of full recovery. I lived through that time minute by minute, keeping hope that she would recover. (Fortunately we caught the illness in time and she did make a full recovery. I feel truly blessed to have a delightful, happy, healthy 9-year-old.)
As I write this, my family is sadly in a similar position once again. One of my nephews (age 25) was involved in an incident yesterday which left him with serious head injuries requiring surgery. Right now, his condition continues to be critical (although more stable today than yesterday) and we don't yet know what will happen. There's a lot of not-knowing and waiting, living moment by moment.
Why am I writing this? Partly it's cathartic, and partly because it seems very relevant to SOLWorld topics and discussions.
'Not-knowing' can be fearful for many people. I think that, rather than being a disadvantage, not-knowing allows us the space to draw on our resources, and we can learn to trust our ability to handle whatever comes.
When we don't know how things will turn out (and how can we ever really know?), being fully present seems to be the most helpful position to take. There's little point in speculating on how bad things might be. By all means, acknowledge the possibility of the worst outcome; be optimistic about the best outcome; then get on with staying in the Now.
So, that's what we're doing... staying positive and present; holding the space; and sending loving, healing energies and thoughts, because that's something we can do something about. And trusting our abiltities to handle whatever comes, however tough it seems at the time.
(Please note: I'm not writing this because I'm looking for sympathy. Like I said, we're a very philosophical and fairly spiritual bunch. This seemed relevant to some current discussions on the site, It's useful for me to write about my current experience, and I hope it will be of some value to you if you're reading it.)
I'm also about to go 'offline' for most of the next week. When I return, it will be interesting to read your comments and your own ideas on these topics. It feels very personal (and probably risky) to be publishing this, so please be sensitive.
And always remember to tell the people you love that you love them...