"Miracle" Questions - SOLWorld2024-03-28T23:44:51Zhttps://solworld.ning.com/forum/topics/2102269:Topic:3995?groupUrl=sfcoaching&feed=yes&xn_auth=noThe Brief team (brief.org.uk)…tag:solworld.ning.com,2012-07-11:2102269:Comment:538832012-07-11T09:26:04.973ZTarık Gandurhttps://solworld.ning.com/profile/TarikGandur
<p>The Brief team (brief.org.uk) are using what they now call "Tomorrow Question". This is something like: Suppose that tomorrow you wake up and all of your best hopes from our sessions are now real. What is the first difference that you will notice?" <br></br>Another one from Frank Thomas (Nelson, T. S. (2010). <i>Doing something different: solution-focused brief therapy practices</i>. New York: Routledge.): <br></br><br></br></p>
<blockquote><p>Let's say 6 months have passed after you finish therapy…</p>
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<p>The Brief team (brief.org.uk) are using what they now call "Tomorrow Question". This is something like: Suppose that tomorrow you wake up and all of your best hopes from our sessions are now real. What is the first difference that you will notice?" <br/>Another one from Frank Thomas (Nelson, T. S. (2010). <i>Doing something different: solution-focused brief therapy practices</i>. New York: Routledge.): <br/><br/></p>
<blockquote><p>Let's say 6 months have passed after you finish therapy with me. We happen to run into each other at the local 7-eleven. (of course, I don't walk up to you- you walk u to me, in keeping with our confidentiality agreement.) You begin to tell me how the changes you experinced during our time together have continued. What do you tell me? (p.20)</p>
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</blockquote> Hi Craig,
A question I often…tag:solworld.ning.com,2008-10-16:2102269:Comment:82972008-10-16T12:08:27.361ZJuliaFryhttps://solworld.ning.com/profile/JuliaFry
Hi Craig,<br />
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A question I often use after setting up the miracle is "how are you being?"<br />
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Best wishes,<br />
Julia
Hi Craig,<br />
<br />
A question I often use after setting up the miracle is "how are you being?"<br />
<br />
Best wishes,<br />
Julia Thank you to you all for shar…tag:solworld.ning.com,2008-08-27:2102269:Comment:65912008-08-27T16:26:31.141ZCraig Kennedyhttps://solworld.ning.com/profile/CraigKennedy
Thank you to you all for sharing your wisdom!
Thank you to you all for sharing your wisdom! Yes, Steve, this works very g…tag:solworld.ning.com,2008-08-15:2102269:Comment:62212008-08-15T07:51:17.950ZHans-Peter Kornhttps://solworld.ning.com/profile/HansPeterKorn
Yes, Steve, this works very good as I experienced it many times!<br />
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By the way: In the book <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/57-Activities-Facilitators-Consultants-Solutions/dp/0954974964?&camp=2486&creative=10522&linkCode=waf&tag=markmckergowasso">"Solution focused activities", Solutions Books Cheltenham UK, 2008</a> I did on <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/reader/0954974964/ref=sib_rdr_toc?ie=UTF8&p=S00D&j=0#reader-page">page 167</a> a contribution with the title…
Yes, Steve, this works very good as I experienced it many times!<br />
<br />
By the way: In the book <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/57-Activities-Facilitators-Consultants-Solutions/dp/0954974964?&camp=2486&creative=10522&linkCode=waf&tag=markmckergowasso">"Solution focused activities", Solutions Books Cheltenham UK, 2008</a> I did on <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/reader/0954974964/ref=sib_rdr_toc?ie=UTF8&p=S00D&j=0#reader-page">page 167</a> a contribution with the title "Looking back to the future" describing a similar experiment with the goal to create ideas how to master projects as a team.<br />
I showed this also at Cologne in May 2008 - and it worked wonderful!<br />
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Cheers<br />
Hans-Peter Hi,
One favourite that I use…tag:solworld.ning.com,2008-08-14:2102269:Comment:61712008-08-14T15:01:57.642ZSteve Onyetthttps://solworld.ning.com/profile/SteveOnyett
Hi,<br />
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One favourite that I use in team coaching is to invite the team to imagine that they are meeting a year from now at [this venue] for a celebratory lunch. It is celebratory because amazing the team has been so dazzling and wonderful for the past year, since that event back in 2008 [i.e. this one!]. You are chatting amongst yourselves relishing the memories. ... I usually get tables to prepare seperately and then enact the conversation with the other tables listening in while I mind map the…
Hi,<br />
<br />
One favourite that I use in team coaching is to invite the team to imagine that they are meeting a year from now at [this venue] for a celebratory lunch. It is celebratory because amazing the team has been so dazzling and wonderful for the past year, since that event back in 2008 [i.e. this one!]. You are chatting amongst yourselves relishing the memories. ... I usually get tables to prepare seperately and then enact the conversation with the other tables listening in while I mind map the contents of their conversations (with flipchart directed away from the group so as not to distract).<br />
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Apols that this is a team one though- I do individual executive coaching but also think in terms of team coaching (rather than training) also as the skills are so often the same.<br />
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Hope this is helpful!<br />
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Steve Hi Craig
One of my favourites…tag:solworld.ning.com,2008-07-28:2102269:Comment:57562008-07-28T09:50:38.124ZJanine Waldmanhttps://solworld.ning.com/profile/JanineWaldman
Hi Craig<br />
One of my favourites is<br />
" suppose this conversation is useful in some way, I don't know how, it just is...and when our conversation has finished you leave this room, close the door and everything is how you would like it to be /this issue or problem is solved...things are happening how you would like them to happen....what's the first signs that this is the case? What else? Who else? etc.......<br />
All the best<br />
Janine
Hi Craig<br />
One of my favourites is<br />
" suppose this conversation is useful in some way, I don't know how, it just is...and when our conversation has finished you leave this room, close the door and everything is how you would like it to be /this issue or problem is solved...things are happening how you would like them to happen....what's the first signs that this is the case? What else? Who else? etc.......<br />
All the best<br />
Janine Hi Craig
This is a fairly fam…tag:solworld.ning.com,2008-07-16:2102269:Comment:53432008-07-16T21:35:34.370ZGreg Vinnicombehttps://solworld.ning.com/profile/GregVinnicombe
Hi Craig<br />
This is a fairly familiar scenario. It can take a while to build confidence in using the miracle question and at what point to introduce it.<br />
Just a couple of thoughts as alternatives - you could try<br />
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1) "What's your BEST HOPES for today's meeting / your organisation / your level of working effectively etc".<br />
2) Perhaps change the tense to "WHEN you are performing more effectively, what will you be doing?"<br />
3) Also, "Suppose you begin to perform more effectively, if I was a 'FLY ON THE…
Hi Craig<br />
This is a fairly familiar scenario. It can take a while to build confidence in using the miracle question and at what point to introduce it.<br />
Just a couple of thoughts as alternatives - you could try<br />
<br />
1) "What's your BEST HOPES for today's meeting / your organisation / your level of working effectively etc".<br />
2) Perhaps change the tense to "WHEN you are performing more effectively, what will you be doing?"<br />
3) Also, "Suppose you begin to perform more effectively, if I was a 'FLY ON THE WALL' what would I see you doing?" "What else?" "What else?"<br />
4) Or, "Who would be THE FIRST PERSON TO NOTICE you are performing more effectively?" "What would they say / do?" "What would you then say / do" and so on.<br />
<br />
Is this what you are looking for or something different?<br />
Best wishes<br />
Greg Hi Craig,
surprised you haven…tag:solworld.ning.com,2008-07-14:2102269:Comment:52552008-07-14T14:19:48.672ZShakyahttps://solworld.ning.com/profile/Shakya
Hi Craig,<br />
surprised you haven't got more response to this.<br />
<br />
Off the top of my head:<br />
* if you could wave a magic wand....<br />
* "TimeQuake" - imagining we travel through time to a future where..... (in a training room there can even be a door-way through which to travel, in the form of two chairs with a gap in-between, etc etc!)<br />
* suppose this course (etc) went surprisingly well.... what would be happening differently afterwards? How would you know it had gone so well?<br />
<br />
take care<br />
Shakya
Hi Craig,<br />
surprised you haven't got more response to this.<br />
<br />
Off the top of my head:<br />
* if you could wave a magic wand....<br />
* "TimeQuake" - imagining we travel through time to a future where..... (in a training room there can even be a door-way through which to travel, in the form of two chairs with a gap in-between, etc etc!)<br />
* suppose this course (etc) went surprisingly well.... what would be happening differently afterwards? How would you know it had gone so well?<br />
<br />
take care<br />
Shakya